Hey y’all. Welcome back to my blog. I know it’s been awhile since I’ve written, mainly, because I didn’t realize how hard it would be to get a minute to myself being a stay at home mom. So, in honor of that, I want my first blog back to be about how my first year as a stay at home mom was not at all what I expected.
For those that have read previous posts especially (link to one about quitting) you know I quit my job last year after having my 3rd son to be a stay at home mom. I now have 3 boys, 4, 2, and 1 years old. Let me tell you, it has been a crazy year. A year that I have spent trying to figure out how to handle being a stay at home mom, which was a huge game changer, and raise 3 crazy boys. My sister also moved in with us this past spring and my oldest started preschool. AHH!!!
It has been a much harder year than I had anticipated. If you’re like me, when you were on maternity leave you thought you would accomplish all these projects, get time to make meals, have down time, keep up with the housework. And then the baby comes and you get literally nothing done. Well, that was what my first year home was like.
I thought I would have all this extra time to keep the house clean and organized. In my head, I thought since I would be home, I wouldn’t have to do all the chores on the weekend. Now, I don’t know if it’s because I’m home all the time and see the dirt more, or if we are dirtier now, but I feel like the house is never clean. Like, the dirt is multiplying all on its own, I swear.
It is truly amazing how much laundry kids can create. Like, it’s been 3 days, why are there 10 pairs of pants in here and 4 shirts? You can stop by anytime and I usually have a laundry basket somewhere that has clothes in it that need to be put away.
I didn’t realize how much of my day would revolve around food. Making meals, cleaning up after meals, searching for sippy cups and snack cups (seriously, where do they disappear to!?) and grocery shopping takes up the majority of my day.
Some of the hardest things were ones that I haven’t planned on. Things like mom guilt, loneliness and discipline. It’s hard enough to follow through on discipline and rules with your kids but when you are with them all the time, you never get a break, and it’s really easy to give in. It’s a total mental game and when there are 3 of them against one of you, the little tyrants often times win.
The mom guilt is a topic for another day, but you guys know the feeling. But the loneliness was something I didn’t expect. Only having your kids to talk to for 90% of the day can be really hard. I sometimes wish work just because I was able to have an intelligent conversation. Facebook becomes the only social interaction I get, especially when there have been times I didn’t leave the house for a week.
Now, I’m not saying all this to talk bad about my kids or say that I hate being a stay at home mom. It is the best thing that has ever happened to me. But it’s a lot harder than most people think, a lot harder than I thought it would be.
So, for all you stay at home moms, hang in there. We are all going through this together. No, you aren’t crazy, it’s just life with kids. For those who aren’t, give those stay at home mom’s a break. I promise you we don’t sit around all day, drinking wine and watching TV.